The 4 Steps to Create the Reality You Desire


“It doesn’t matter where you are coming from. All that matters is where you are going.” ~Brian Tracy

Does your reality look like you envisioned it 10 years ago? Have you created and expressed what is inside of you? Have you mastered the art of conscious creation?

I think it is very helpful to really know the process of how we manifest the things around us into existence. If we want to improve our life and get the things we are looking for, it is necessary to become totally aware of the process and then use it in our favor. If we can master it we can progressively produce the life we desire. I am a huge fan of proactivity, of acting from our desires in opposition to reactivity, and this post delivers the mechanics to do this. Anthony Robbins called the process the success-formula, consisting of 4 steps.

The thing is – and that struck me once I realized it – if you can think what you want, then it is a matter of mechanics to create it. Sure it will not be overnight, but within this thought is the seed to use this 4-step process and create the reality you want.

1. Intention: Think about what you want to create

This is the initial part where you get an idea of what you want. You can also call this an intention, which means that you form an image, a thought or in general a vision in your consciousness.

Where does it come from?

Well, I think this is the great power that we as humans possess: we can be creative, in the true meaning of the word. I think it often is a combination of things that already exist and thoughts from us applied to it. Maybe you get a flash of insight while you see a need to be met or a problem to be solved.


A nice way to do this is brainstorming: you sit above your question or problem and think about it creatively while writing all thoughts and ideas that may come down. You don’t judge or evaluate them, you just get it out of your head. In step 2 you get those into order.

Or you already made this, maybe already several times and you already know exactly what you want to create. But it is still an idea in your head and maybe you are a bit fuzzy about it. Then step 2 comes into play now :)

One note about the popular law of attraction: what you focus on expands. This is exactly what is happening here. If you put your attention on something, preferably a question like “How can I get the job I dream about?” you will get answers. If you stay with the process you will get very good answers and see opportunities that you completely missed out before.

Wayne Dyer wrote a whole book about intention called “The Power of Intention”, maybe you want to check it out.

2. First Creation: Crystallize the mental idea into the world via planning

Once you have an exciting idea or an insight to get ahead, the next step must be to make a first creation in the physical world. This means that you put your idea down and out of “only your head”, preferably by writing, painting or something similar. So if you want to write a new blog-post you write down the idea and maybe some bullets about the idea. If you want to create art you may draw a simple sketch, if you want to reach a goal you write down this goal and then the first action-steps. If it is larger maybe it translates into a whole project-plan. In general step 2 fixes the idea and produces a plan to achieve it.

Here it is also very advisable to analyze a bit about the idea. Is my planning sufficient? Is it really as good as you first thought? Is it giving me and others what I intended to?

Another very important point here is the reason for your intention: “Why do you want to do it?” The “Why” was especially emphasized by Anthony Robbins since this is the “emotional gas” that drives your idea forward later on. The reason why you are doing it must keep you going, not only at this stage but also when you are optimizing your creation. That’s why it is very important to be clear about and to align your “Why” with your deepest desires.

This actually blends with step 1 and only completes the first mental creation and transforms it into a physical creation. Everything that is created by humans (so usually everything around us, except for pure nature) came into being this way.

3. Second Creation: Execute the idea in physical reality

This is where you are actually putting what you want into action. You start to execute your plan from the first creation. This is what is generally seen in “reality” while you produce something in the world of form. You put your plan into action.

While it is the most obvious step – and I don’t want to talk about project-management here – there are some things that are interesting: First: good preparation and a good plan make the actual doing much more smoothly. Also step 2 should be finished. Usually it can get pretty frustrating if you execute your plan while on the other hand still developing it. It gets even more complicated if others are executing it, while you develop it ;) That’s a typical mistake in larger projects and I know I’ve been there :)

What also comes in handy is a good system for productivity. There are several systems for self-organization, for instance GTD (“Getting things done” by David Allen). I wrote about my system in How to plan your week: 4 Steps to Productivity .

4. Optimize: Get feedback and change until you succeed

You and other people can see your actions and your results.

Getting and Using Feedback

It is often funny how other people react to this and how you react to those reactions :) The topic of different perspectives comes into play: since you already know your creation very well, but all others not, and maybe they even don’t car too much ;) So depending on what this creation is, you should take enough time to explain and promote your idea. For instance a website is there to provide value for others, if it fails with this the whole idea fails.

Feedback doesn’t only mean feedback from others, it will also be the feedback you give to yourself: How does it work for me? Have I met my initial idea? How can I improve from here?


The idea is to use feedback to improve your creation. You notice how it works and you adapt your plan to optimize your result. If you do this you won’t fail. It may include to change the whole idea from what you learned on the journey, or you have to optimize small things. Optimization is changing your approach until you reach your desired result.


As we can see the whole process is initiated by our intention in step 1. The quality of what we create in our own reality is depending extremely on a very good first step. Of course it is depending also very much on process, what is a good idea without actually using it? The point is to do the initial 1. step consciously and decide what it is that you want to create. The rest is a mechanical process that you can learn.

The 4-step process of

1. Intention
2. First Creation: Planning
3. Second Creation: Executing
4. Optimizing until you succeed

is a simple framework to create the reality of desire. It may be intuitively clear and so the purpose of the post is more to see that every desire is achievable and encourage you to go for it.

The art of creation is the way to create the reality around us. You are constantly doing it anyway, the question is: are you aware of it and secondly: is it a creation of your own choosing? So it is about time to do it consciously.

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  • Daniel Richard

    November 10, 2008

    All the four points listed are sure helpful. Especially on the part about “Planning”! This is usually the period where I know many people would spend too much time on and fail to act on them.

    What I’d do for this stage is to do a quick overview plan, and then start working on it first. This helps get things done faster, and crystallize ideas.

  • Myrko

    November 10, 2008

    I think when it comes to planning its very different from person to person: some people tend to overdo it while some underestimate it. It’s also depending on the kind of project we do. The larger it is and the more people are involved the more planning and communication is required. But in then end of course, only the actual result counts for much. :)

  • Harry Chittenden

    November 11, 2008

    In stage two, I find it really important to be realistic about what it actually takes to realize the intention. It’s helpful for me to seriously imagine the process of carrying out the plan. I need to create scenarios in my head and actually rehearse the intended action, bringing real sensory input into my imaginary scene? What will it feel like to give up another hour of sleep to make this happen? Rehearsing makes for better execution in stages three and four.

    Good post, Myrko.

  • tolana

    November 12, 2008

    Thank you for this article. I recently discovered your blog and have been working my way through the articles listed on “Start here!”. Thank you so much for these wonderful reads. I have been lost for so many years I don’t know how to find my way out. Right now I really feel as though I have hit rock bottom in terms of knowing what I want, who I am, what I believe, and self-esteem. Your blog is helping me and hopefully as I read more of it I will find further resources for help. Thank you.

  • Myrko

    November 12, 2008

    Harry, I think you talk about clarity and really feeling your goal and being there. This is like a shift then and you are aligned with what you want to create.

    Tolana, I’m pleased to hear that my articles are useful for you! I think the question “What do I really want?” shifts focus to pro-activity and can tune into your desires. I think we really need to ask those questions to live a fulfilled life – and to be happy…

    I hope you can find some inspiration from the posts. I’m always looking for honest feedback :)

  • Sensual photography

    June 25, 2009

    f we create our own reality…what if my reality, desires & wishes oppose someone else’s reality & desires?

  • Myrko

    June 29, 2009

    That’s acutually a very good question.

    What I use to do is try to broaden my perspective then and look at what I am doing from a larger perspective (s. ).

    One way that helps is to not get caught too much in separation from other people and see more the oneness. “Don’t do to others, what you dont want to be done to yourself.” I think that’s a good guideline, if you decided to live consciously.

    In which way is it opposing someone else? Is it competition? Or are you really hurting people?

    Fair Competition is a good and inspiring thing. Attacking someone is another realm.

    I think basically if you look from a broader perspective on what you desire and it looks good with a oneness mindset, then you are good to go. If it’s not, maybe rethink your approach.

  • Web design Group

    January 5, 2010

    well, it’s a concept millenias old. first written mention can be credited to lao tzu if i remember right. also you can find description on it and ways to cope in nearly any mahayana buddhist text. if you need it short i can recommend prajnaparamita (diamond) sutra, and if explained – lankavatara sutra, specifically english translation by a japanese named daisetz teitaro suzuki. in these texts this concept is expanded and widely discussed, among other matters.

  • Komodo Dragon

    January 6, 2011

    Setting goals that you know you are capable of achieving is important. At the same time, see also if it’s feasible from the standpoint of leading a good life. If that goal is possible only be making the rest of your time miserable, it might not be worth it. Always do what you think will strike a good balance.

  • Sell Textbooks

    January 11, 2011

    I find that when I make timeliness I usually am able to stick to it. I try to figure out how many hours it will take to accomplish specific tasks and then schedule accordingly. I get kinda ocd when it comes to this but it really keeps me on track.

  • p90x

    February 2, 2011

    Great article. I love the quote by Brian Tracy, and it is so true.

    - Robert


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