Comments on: Self-Reflection: How to Do It Right

By: Myrko

Myrko — Mon, 08 Sep 2008 22:18:39 +0000

Brain, you mention an interesting point. In fact since I started this blog my personal journal sees less writing from me. You could say that I don’t use the time, but I don’t feel the need to do it in such detail (at least once a day in the past) now. This is because a lot of my writing and reflecting flows directly into the blog-posts. The recent posts get more personal in the way that this is really on my mind, than the posts when I started. Anyways writing seems to be a major way to get clarity with oneself.

By: brianohio

brianohio — Mon, 08 Sep 2008 21:30:48 +0000

Myrko,

I spent some time today reflecting on myself and posting in my blog. Although it was more or a “I shoulda…” post, I think the princilpes you bring up were used. Evelyn’s idea of asking why she is feeling are a certain way is a good starting point for me too. I find that writing my feelings and thoughts online has become a welcomed outlet.

Keep up the good work!

brianohio’s last blog post: Days go by…

By: Myrko

Myrko — Mon, 08 Sep 2008 10:44:29 +0000

Hi Elly, thanks for sharing.
I wish you insights and success along your way! :)

By: Elly

Elly — Mon, 08 Sep 2008 09:25:06 +0000

Very useful article. Now I am in similar processes of trying to realize what do I want and how to achieve it. I have signed my resignation letter as a firts step….we’ll see where will it lead me to.

By: Myrko

Myrko — Tue, 26 Aug 2008 14:57:59 +0000

Andy, “Why” enables us to get the the core of a topic, to find the real reason behind something on the surface. As you pointed out, the “How to improve?” is the perfect follow-up then!

Asking the right questions is very powerful, as you write on your blog :) I remember Tony Robbins also talking about the Power of Questions…

By: Andrew Peacock

Andrew Peacock — Mon, 25 Aug 2008 14:51:40 +0000

Hi,

I’m with Evelyn. Despite being a major advocate of empowering questions, sometimes “why” questions can be useful…. but only if we know we can quickly turn them into “how” questions very quickly. A “why” can highlight a specific problem, giving you the opportunity to ask a very specific “how”, which might help to provide quite focused and powerful answers.

Great post,

Andy

By: Myrko

Myrko — Tue, 19 Aug 2008 21:33:30 +0000

Evelyn, that’s a good point. I think self-reflection is ultimately about really understanding ourselves and our environment and then having the power to go into the right direction from there. So self-reflection is about creating clarity and living from there.
I think creating clarity is really asking why followed by understanding. Then – not stopping on why – moving to how.

So I guess asking why is really more relevant than I pointed out in the article. Thanks for this addition! :)

By: Evelyn Lim

Evelyn Lim — Tue, 19 Aug 2008 14:36:40 +0000

You are right to point out that how questions are more action and solution oriented. However, I find it hard to move on to hows without going through the whys.

Here’s how I do mine: I usually start with my feelings. I begin by tuning in and ask myself what do I feel right now. From my emotions, I then start to ask myself why. My why questions help me to understand more about myself. However, I do note that sometimes there are no reasons to the whys. Still, I go through the why questions because they may provide me a clue. They keep me aware. In awareness, there is no judgement.

I may then choose to write down my thoughts as a part of self awareness. Writing is a form of release for me too. Moving on to what else can I do is usually the last step.

Evelyn Lim’s last blog post: 10 Insights Into The Power Of Thoughts

By: INcubator

INcubator — Sun, 17 Aug 2008 18:37:18 +0000

Asking the right question is a very interesting way to look at it. I read the topic of Why versus How questions elsewhere. I should definately self-reflect more often, so thanks for reminding me.